I’ve read a number of articles about de-transition recently. My heart goes out to every person who has gone through this experience. It must have been an especially shattering and difficult experience. Your voice is important and I value it and respect it enormously.
Every transgender experience is different, difficult and uncertain. None of us can know how we will feel at the end of our transition or lived experience. We can only follow what our hearts and souls tell us is right. Sometimes we misread or even mislead ourselves.
We should always consider all outcomes when deciding on our own transition. That’s why the voices of people who have de-transitioned are so valuable.
But to use the example of transgender people who have decided to de-transition as an invalidation of all transgender transition is simply absurd. We could use the same argument to invalidate marriage.
As is always the case in almost anything, there will be a wide distribution of experiences felt by trans people going through transition. Ranging from very happy with transition right through to very unhappy.
The very unhappy people will most likely de-transition. But that doesn’t mean they determine the efficacy of transition for everyone else.
In my view, transition in whatever form works for you, does seem to be an effective way for many transgender people to find some peace and begin to live their lives.
People who detransition aren’t our enemies but equally they don’t speak for us or predict our outcomes.
We are beautiful unique individuals striving to find happiness. We are not all the same.